Affirmations for the Dreamy

"Head in the clouds."

"She's in her own world."

"Air-headed."

"Absent-minded."

"In La-La Land."

These are things I grew up hearing from every member of my immediate family—save my father who wasn't around. I was a dreamy little girl with an imagination far more interesting than real life, as many children often have, but I tended to live in the extensive mental void, even at times considered most inappropriate I think, because my family consistently made fun of me. 

I am dreamy by nature, often lost in deep fantasies--sometimes as a way to escape or incorporate my deepest emotions--and I need a lot of time to myself in order to safely access this side of me or I fear being criticized for being so spacey when I should be present with the people in front of me.  I can't help it. To this day, I'm unsure if my consistent daydreaming and disconnect from my physical environment/body is a result of dissociation from PTSD, my ADHD inability to focus on what's right in front of me, or if the child me just needs extra time to explore my own emotions and imagination. Either way, it's a need that would take extensive therapy to rid myself of—if I ever even wanted to. I’m now an adult who has autonomy over how I spend my time. Now I can just be myself, and all my quirks can show their little creature faces, without having anyone around to tell me otherwise.

My inner child, however, still lives with insecurity of not being good enough simply because she is not as interested in what's right in front of her, so I'm going to give her positive affirmations instead.

Brittney, you are

Imaginative and brilliant,

A researcher and a problem-solver,

And an important member of society who has much to contribute due to your colorfully investigative ways of thinking. 

You are creative and funny, even when you're sad, or tired, and you are still capable of positive influence over the lives of those around you even when you're not "all there."

You don't have to be "all there" all the time. In fact, when you retreat to the more diverse worlds and ideals of your mind, you bring back incredible gifts of inspiration to others. You may not always have the right words for all your thoughts, but you can still act them out with your funky impulses to sit upside down in a chair or wear your friends' shoes that are double the size of your feet as you walk up and down stairs.

You can exist merely in joyful moments that make you laugh and nobody else.

Your quirks can exist without justification.

You may not always be able to explain yourself and why you do things, and yet you have a deep understanding of why you do things.

It's okay to not have words, or to even get words right, because words are a societal invention anyway and your mind is not obligated to operate the way society demands it to. Your mind's neurodivergent makeup precedes that of linguistic invention. It is stardust and energy. It is motion and brilliance.

The right people, and especially you, will understand you without words. 

You are a concept. You live out concepts that exist within your mind and you do not need to explain yourself.

You are what you are, as everyone else is everyone else, and

you are,

so beautifully,

you.

“Nothing happens unless first we dream.”

- Carl Sandburg

Listening to: “Interdimensional Portal Leading to a Cute Place” by In Love With a Ghost